Steps and Tools for Emotional Intelligence

What is emotional intelligence? How does emotional intelligence make you a better lover, leader, parent, or friend? What is mindfulness? How do you negotiate a win-win agreement? What is the easiest way to calm your stress symptoms at work? How do you speak to a narcissist? What is anxiety? What are the symptoms of depression? Psychologist and coach Greg Hamlin takes up questions like these and more. He offers skills, tools, and steps for less stress, more emotional intelligence, more satisfying relationships, along with greater well-being.
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Mar 31, 2017

In previous episodes Dr. Hamlin has discussed emotional burnout and what to do about it.  Earlier episodes touched on narcissism and how to speak to a narcissist. The current episode brings these two topics together: burnout and narcissism.  

What is a narcissistic boss?  If we understand the key characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder, it can inform our strategies for setting boundaries with an unreasonable, demanding boss.

Part of emotional intelligence is self-awareness.  This means that we need to make sure we are carrying our own weight in the workplace. We need to do some reality testing to make sure we are not projecting our own shortcomings onto the boss.  But if a boss is truly narcissistic, he or she will likely be critical, demanding, stingy with encouragement, and will tend to take credit for himself or herself when it comes to your accomplishments.  The lack of empathy is striking and the narcissistic boss will talk and make decisions in way that is wholly self-referential.

In this episode, Dr. Hamlin briefly explains 6 specific ways that a narcissistic boss causes crushing stress to those under him or her. But there's more.  This excessive stress spills over into the family, friends, or significant others of anyone working for a narcissistic boss.  He concludes by offering a few tips for how to cope with a narcissistic boss so that you can protect yourself and those you love.

Mar 24, 2017

Various forms of social anxiety are common in the workplace.  Even highly successful people can suddenly find a particular work situation becomes a trigger for high anxiety or even panic.  One such situation is the conference call or business meeting. Many people find themselves with sweaty palms and crawling skin when they are about to give a status update or give a presentation in a conference call.  Even more common are the rattled nerves before a presentation.  

Being overly nervous can hinder your performance and leave you with a feeling that you did poorly, even your presentation went reasonably well.  If you have to white-knuckle through the experience, then your are setting yourself up for unpleasantness the next time you have to give a presentation.

One solution involves a two step process.  First, you practice specific relaxation skills over time so that you don't have to learn them on the day of the call or the meeting. Second, you have some simple notes in front of you that are your cheat sheet for how to calm yourself.  This results in increased emotional intelligence so that you can outsmart your rattled nerves and be at your best.  In this episode, Dr. Greg Hamlin presents a quick-and-dirty audio cheat sheet for how to calm your nerves before a meeting.

Mar 4, 2017

Learn four steps for dealing with burnout in your life after weeks and months of prolonged stress.  In the previous episode, Dr. Greg Hamlin outlined the key characteristics of burnout and it's causes.  In this episode, the focus is on what to do about it.  Using emotional intelligence to recover from burnout means (1) recognizing it; (2) facing it; (3) taming it; and (4) growing beyond it.  It also means learning to use one or two simple tools to get started in taking your life back from burnout.